> # Phismosis? Or something else?

> Written by Sarah at 22 Feb 2000 13:08:02:

> My lover was 18 and a virgin when we started having sex.

> The first time we had sex we used a condom and sex painful for him, and he found achieving orgasm difficult.
> Since his penis is quite large, we assumed the condom was too tight, and purchased some larger ones.

> This helped alieviate the problem, but did not completely remove it.

> Recently, after I recieved my all clear on STD testing, we started having sex without condoms, expecting that all pain and difficulty with achieving orgasm would cease.

> Unfortuneately, this was not the case.

> He experiences pain on entry, strong enough to make him wince and hiss, but not
> enough to make him want to stop. Once he has entered fully, there is not more pain, but orgasm is often delayed and sometimes simply does not happen. This is
> frustrating and distressing for us both.

> I remarked casually that I felt perhaps his foreskin was too tight (although he has never had any discomfort when masturbating), and he said he tended to agree.
> I mentioned that gentle stretching in the shower could sometimes help with the
> problem, and he said he would try.

> I am still concerned, however, as he has mentioned that his mother once told him
> that he had some penile problem as an infant (but did not specify what the problem had been).

> I have also noticed that the seam or raphe that runs the length of his shaft is broken and distorted from the top of the scrotum to about 2 or 3 inches up his shaft.

> I am curious as to the nature of his problem, for until we know what precicely it is, we cannot really find a solution.

> Hoping someone will have some ideas that can help us.

> Sarah

> Answers:

> - Re: Phismosis? Or something else? rs 2/29/2000 22:22 (5)
>   - Re: Phimosis? Or something else? Sarah 3/02/2000 21:15 (4)
>     - Re: Phimosis? Or something else? RS 3/06/2000 01:07 (3)
>       - Re: Phimosis? Or something else? Sarah 3/07/2000 14:43 (2)
>         - Re: Phimosis? Or something else? R J Knight 3/14/2000 22:52 (0)
>         - Re: Phimosis? Or something else? RS 3/12/2000 03:49 (0)

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