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# torn frenulum - looking for best solution Written by Lucas at 02 Mar 2006 20:25:28: Hi There: Firstly, let me say I think this "third way" approach is exactly what is needed when it comes to problems of male penile and sexual health, and I really appreciate the work you've done developing these forums. Even after reading so many messages and experiences of frenuloplasty and circumcision, though, I still am sort of stuck in terms of what to do, or whether to do anything, about my situation. I guess that's 'cause everyone's willy is unique! Also, my situation is not as extreme as many. I'm 30 years old, and I tore my frenulum a few years back. This never would have happened had I not been engaged in some really stupid sexual maneuvres with not nearly enough lubrication, as I had never had any indication of a thin or tight frenulum, or any foreskin problems. I applied some calendula salve to it and it healed well within a month. The thing is, my frenulum now feels tighter and doesn't give me pleasure as it used to, especially during oral sex. Whereas I used to really enjoy the sensations given by the stretching of the frenulum, I only really notice now when my lover's teeth come into contact, and it doesn't feel very nice - not exactly painful, but not nice either. The other change that I really don't appreciate is that my foreskin, which used to just cover the glans pretty evenly all around, now protrudes more on the underside and looks more flabby when flacid, owing to the way the frenulum thickened somewhat when it healed and therefore seems to push the foreskin foreward more on the underside in closed position, and this means I have to pull the foreskin back a little in order to pee straight, which I didn't have to do before. As for intercourse, it's fine as long as there's enough lubrication, but I wonder if the frenulum could tear again when I'm much older, as I understand older women nearing menopause don't lubricate as much naturally. So all in all, I don't have a serious immediate problem, but I REALLY miss the way my penis was before. I didn't have to be so careful not to pull back too tightly or hard on the foreskin. That used to be pleasurable, whereas now the frenulum is thicker (and I worry it could break again), and the foreskin doesn't move quite as far back or as freely as it used to. I don't really want to be circumcised, although some say that this works for frenulum problems, as little skin is left to pull on it, which is intriguing, and of course I'm curious as to whether it might feel better because of that. As for frenuloplasty, I've read your experience that the foreskin actually gets longer after it, and I certainly don't want that, as my foreskin already appears longer on the underside than it used to, but without frenuloplasty I worry that it may tear agin in the future. The option that I've been living with is to just try to accept the way my body has changed and make sure that I'm careful not to tear it again, by using plenty of lube and generally being careful not to yank (or have it yanked) too hard. Thanks in advance for any advice, Lucas Answers: Re: torn frenulum - looking for best solution Robin 3/02/2006 20:26 (2) Re: torn frenulum - looking for best solution Lucas 3/02/2006 20:30 (1) Re: torn frenulum - looking for best solution Robin 3/02/2006 20:32 (0)