HUSBAND`S PROBLEMS

I only recently discovered a reference to phimosis in an American publication, TOTAL SEX, published by Men's Fitness magazine. My former husband, with whom I've stayed on relatively good terms, was born in Scotland. We met at eighteen and married at nineteen. We divorced four years later. I've been struggling for years to understand the dysfunction we experienced. Having never seen an uncircumcised man before (or since), I put our difficulties down to this phenomenon. For the entire four years of our marriage, David suffered from what you described as 'long overhang'. I never did see the head of his penis as he had about an inch and a half of ragged loose skin that narrowed down to about half an inch in diameter. I never witnessed an 'erection' per se, and his only form of sexual performance was rigorous masturbation that took absolutely ages. Penetration was virtually impossible. If this wasn't phimosis I'd like to know how to define it. I've never broached the subject with him since our divorce but if it would help him to find some enjoyment in life by knowing what this is and how it is treatable I would sure like to give him that chance. We were so naive back then and I just assumed I didn't arouse him enough. I carried that emotional baggage around for years. But that, as they say is another story. Can you enlighten me at all? Thank you.

Dear ....
You've understood my site - this interpretation is probably correct, ... maybe for some other reason, he couldn't have erections... however I assume he had an anatomical problem with retraction, .... I developed similar habits, and there were a couple of American girls, who probably also wondered about this kinky Englishman, ... htttp://www.male-initiation.net/map.html and click on "Diary of an Initiation" (in yellow)

On a practical level, it is not only phimosis which can inhibit the foreskin, frenulum breve can also do this. From the description of a "long overhang" I suggest this is frenulum breve.

I suspect because of their anatomical influences that generally a tight phimosis alone leads to a lack of interest in sex, whereas frenulum breve or a combination of fr. br. and phimosis leads to the kinky stuff. Whatever, the male foreskin can be inhibited by both and when the foreskin is inhibited then possibilities, appetite and behaviour are influenced.

Normally the uncircumcised man can retract his foreskin and expose the glans, a man with phimosis or frenulum breve cannot do this or it is uncomfortable and so he avoids doing it.

In Britain we are never checked, the pornography laws disallow pics of the erect penis, ... boys who avoid anatomical pain in their erection are likely to avoid a number of other situations ... thus "from innocence to ignorance"

I just had a letter from a mother of a kid with a painful foreskin condition, ... learning starts early .... this news might come as quite a shock to your old lover, ... I mean it involves a review of his life time beliefs that "I am normal" ...

Keep in touch, be nice to hear what happens
Robin